We Don’t Need a “Cheat Day”
Thanksgiving is almost here, and it can be so tempting to label it a “cheat day”, right? In our culture, where holidays are often tied to food, it’s incredibly easy for it to feel like we’re giving ourselves a “pass” to eat whatever, whenever. But let’s face it, that “cheat day” mentality doesn’t always leave us feeling as great as we’d hope. Mainly because we’re super bloated and riddled with shame, guilt, and resentment that night or the following day.
So, here’s my question for you: What if, instead, we approach Thanksgiving in a way that feels supportive, intentional, and, most importantly, guilt-free?
Why The “Cheat Day” Mindset Sucks
When we view Thanksgiving as a cheat day, we may enjoy a little freedom in the moment, sure. But, it’s a facade because this mindset usually leads us to overindulgence, guilt, and feelings of being out of control later. When we enter into our meals with this mentality, we become disconnected from our true hunger and fullness cues, leaving us feeling regretful instead of satisfied. And it’s important to know that you’re not alone if you feel conflicted about finding balance on a holiday that emphasizes abundance! It’s completely natural to struggle with this as it’s an appropriated part of celebrating nowadays with the stretchy pants and pushy family members.
But, there’s another way, a more supportive way. Ready to find a process that lets you fully enjoy Thanksgiving while staying true to your own needs?
Finding a Balanced Thanksgiving Mindset
Set Intentions Beforehand: Before you even sit down to eat, try setting a few intentions. Take a deep breath and think about how you want Thanksgiving to feel. Are there particular foods you look forward to all year? Is there a family recipe that makes you feel connected to tradition? Whatever it might be, setting intentions that support you, are enjoyable, and stay aligned with your goals and values will help ground you in what you truly want, making it easier to stay connected to your needs.
Serve Yourself with Mindfulness: When it’s time to eat, start with small portions of foods you genuinely want to try. Take a lap around the table or buffet, so you can really see everything before grabbing ALL of the food you automatically react to. Remind yourself that there’s no need to load up your plate all at once, as you can always come back for more. This kind of support is a simple act that helps you avoid feeling overly full or overwhelmed, allowing you to appreciate each bite and every minute.
Honor Your Hunger and Fullness Cues: Check in with your body as you eat to ensure you’re nurturing every part of it. Consider asking questions like, “Am I still hungry? Am I getting full? Have I reached a point of satisfaction?” Use an alarm to pause halfway through your meal or snack to see if you’re truly enjoying the food or just continuing out of habit. This small moment of self-awareness can make all the difference in helping you end the meal feeling content and fulfilled.
Embrace Gratitude Over Guilt
Most importantly, remember that Thanksgiving is about gratitude over everything else. Appreciation for your food, family, access, life, and everything else! This day is a chance to honor both your love of food and your commitment to self-trust by building boundaries around eating habits that truly serve you. Whether you eat more or less than planned, promise yourself that you’ll let go of judgment, and give yourself credit for the supportive choices you made. Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be a “cheat day”, it can be a holiday of joy, connection, and balance!
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